Faith-Based Speaker Spews Sexist Dating Tips at Texas High School

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In response to severe budget cuts to education and immense pressure to perform well on standardized tests, one Dallas-area school is shelling out cash to make sure students know the essentials: How to be “dateable.”

On Wednesday morning, Richardson High School students were subjected to an assembly featuring faith-based speaker and Guy Fieri lookalike Justin Lookadoo.

Lookadoo taught the students that “dateable girls know how to shut up” and “Men of God are wild, not domesticated.”

Luckily, Richardson High School and Justin Lookadoo both overestimated these high schoolers' willingness to silently consent to these offensive, damaging gender stereotypes. During the assembly, many of them took to Twitter to call him out using the hashtag #lookadouche.

Read more about Richardson High School's skeevy, misogynistic speaker after the jump.Justin Lookadoo authored the book Dateable: Are You? Are They?, a dating guide for the dozens of teens nationwide seeking out relationship help from a middle-aged man.

The book revolves around his Dateable Girl Rules and Dateable Boy Rules, a collection of all-too-familiar, heteronormative conventions about gender and sexuality written as a modern guide for adolescents.

His instructions for young women include gems like:

Dateable girls know how to shut up. They don't monopolize the conversation. They don't tell everyone everything about themselves.

Let him lead. God made guys as leaders. Dateable girls get that and let him do guy things, get a door, open a ketchup bottle. They relax and let guys be guys. Which means they don't ask him out!!!

Need him. Dateable girls know that guys need to be needed. A Dateable girl isn't Miss Independent.

In other words, ladies, keep your mouth shut, act needy, and don't get in the way of your brave, ketchup-bottle-opening manleader.

Lookadoo's advice for guys is just as ridiculous:

Men of God are wild, not domesticated. Dateable guys aren't tamed. They don't live by the rules of the opposite sex. They fight battles, conquer lands, and stand up for the oppressed.

Dateable guys know they aren't as sensitive as girls and that's okay. They know they are stronger, more dangerous, and more adventurous and that's okay. Dateable guys are real men who aren't afraid to be guys.

Dateable guys know that porn is bad for the spirit and the mind. They keep women covered up.

Dudes don't have feelings, and they can't be tamed or controlled! Go colonize something—that's definitely worked out well in the past. And don't let your girlfriend do porn.

RHS students didn't exactly buy into Lookadoo's advice for acting like a proper young lady or gentleman, and they took to Twitter to mock him during the assembly.

According to The Dallas Morning News, Richardson High School officials offered something resembling an apology after the incident: “RHS and RISD approve of the broad messages shared with students related to self-empowerment and dating violence, but do not support some of the terminology used by the speaker to generalize student behaviors.”

Seriously? Men are pathologically violent, and women should be silent and passive—that's the message that Richardson High School wants to send to students about dating violence?

With the recent series of high-profile rape cases with teenage perpetrators and victims, it seems counter-intuitive to teach kids that men can't be blamed for their lack of self control and women should stay quiet.

The students at Richardson High School seem to understand the danger in forcing exclusionary, backward gender roles on young people. Hopefully the administration will catch on too.

Natalie tweets from @nsanluis.


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Natalie San Luis

Natalie is a native Texan, a feminist, and a writer, focusing on reproductive justice, race, and pop culture. When she's not writing (and sometimes when she is), she's brewing beer, drinking beer, and reading stuff on the Internet. Her work has been featured on The Huffington Post, xoJane, The Billfold, Culturemap, and E3W Review of Books. She tweets from @nsanluis.

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