Bro-Choice: How #HB2 Hurts Texas Men Who Like Women

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You can read the follow-up post here: 2013 or 1950? Conservatives Rail Against Having Sex Outside of Marriage.

The terrible anti-abortion bill being considered in the Texas legislature during this special session doesn't just hurt women — it also hurts all of the men that have women in their lives that they care about.

It's crucial that Texas guys understand how Texas women's bodily autonomy affects them, too. The fight being waged against the bill that would close all but six abortion clinics in Texas will only strengthen with more support.  

Forcing women to adhere to the anti-choice attitudes of state legislators forces men to do the same, and will have serious consequences both on men's lives and lifestyles.

The old way of viewing reproductive rights as a women's issue alone is easier and in some ways encouraged by outdated parts of masculine culture, and it's wrong. When men stand with Texas women against this bill, they are also standing with Texas men.

Find out below the jump four reasons why Texas guys should oppose #HB2.Most of us have female friends, mothers, sisters, roommates that we care about, and who we think know better what to do with their reproductive health than a bunch of legislators. Obviously we should stand up for them.

Odds are, you know a woman who has had an abortion or a man whose partner has had one — or a man whose current girlfriend did not become a mother before she was ready or suffer serious physical harm from an unsafe, illegal abortion. They may not talk about their personal stories, but we men need to remember that 1 in 3 American women will have an abortion during her reproductive years. And those pregnancies didn't happen all on their own.

For those of us guys who like girls — you know, like them like them — and want to have relationships with them that may last anywhere from a few minutes to many years, we need to think about how this bill, by curtailing the bodily autonomy and sexual freedom of women, hurts us, too. We need to stand with women in their fight to control their own bodies.

How #HB2 Hurts Straight Texas Men

    Your girlfriend's/wife's life will be in danger. Making abortion inaccessible for millions of Texas women is going to put them in danger if they ever need to terminate a pregnancy. Black markets for unsafe abortions will emerge, and women will be pushed into potentially fatal back-alley abortions. That's your girlfriend's life we're talking about.

    Your freedom to choose is at stake, too. While it is ultimately a woman's choice whether to have an abortion, many women choose to make that decision with the man involved. Do you want that decision ready-made for you by politicians in state government? Not if you value freedom, you don't.


    You want to decide when and if to have kids. This bill will force thousands of Texas men into unplanned fatherhood by making it impossible for women to access an abortion in the event of an unplanned pregnancy. Even if you want to have kids, you probably don't want an accident to make you a father before you're psychologically ready and able to care for a child. If you don't want kids, you don't want the narrow, personal views of politicians in the state government to force you to have them.


    Your sex life is at stake. Can you think of anything that kills the vibe faster than a woman fearing a back-alley abortion? Making abortion essentially inaccessible in Texas will add an anxiety to sex that will drastically undercut its joys. And don't be surprised if casual sex outside of relationships becomes far more difficult to come by.

It's clear: if the Legislature basically takes away a Texas woman's right to choose, having sex becomes a much, much riskier proposition for women and men.

It becomes much, much riskier for women who currently count on access to safe, legal abortion because now an accidental pregnancy could mean death or serious infection. It also becomes riskier for us men, who may well end up fathers well before we intend.

Almost half of all pregnancies are unplanned and unintended. Of those, over 40% currently end in abortion. What happens to those 40% if this law passes? Are you willing to roll the dice with your girlfriend's health and safety?

So, my fellow men, listen up. We need to stand with our Texas women in this fight: for our sisters, mothers, friends, girlfriends, and wives, so that they can have the freedom to control their bodies.

I'll see you down at the Capitol. I'll be in orange.

You can read the follow-up post here: 2013 or 1950? Conservatives Rail Against Having Sex Outside of Marriage.  

About Author

Ben Sherman

Ben Sherman has been a BOR staff writer since 2011. A graduate of the University of Texas, Ben has worked on campaigns, in political consulting, and has written for other news outlets like Think Progress. Ben considers campaign finance reform the fundamental challenge of our time because it affects every other issue in American politics. He is currently on leave for the election season.

11 Comments

  1. Shag on Demand
    I can't believe what I am reading.  I am stunned by the stupidity of this article. Are you actually arguing that it affects your ability to shag your girlfriend whenever you want to?  

  2. Sex without love
    What a great example of the exploitation of women by “pro-choice” men. Abortion is used to treat women as objects that can be used over and over (or just once, whatever they prefer). Upset at the prospect of getting less tail?  Maybe it's time to put on your big boy pants and be responsible for your actions.

    Ladies, you are worth so much more than this.

  3. Claire Stevens on

    Consequences? To hell with consequences.
    Yes, Ben. Nothing could be worse than having the mood spoiled by some pesky nagging worries that you might actually produce a baby with your fornication. How terrible it would be for you – and for your piece of tail – if you couldn't just flush it and be done. Let's all support causes that ensure that we never have to be worried about experiencing the consequences of our actions. Because, like, what a downer that would be.

  4. It Hurts You? Yeah, right!
    Are you serious!?! God forbid it is a risk to have sex and result in a baby happening! Wow. I would laugh if this weren't absolutely sickening and selfish.

    Not only is abortion the death of a child, most mothers who abort are scarred for life with this decision/act. So, yeah, your sister, wife, etc. should get respect due to them to NOT have her kill her offspring and have her emotional life damaged for the rest of her life. Hello!! Real men will have more respect for themselves and their woman, to not sleep around with a built-in fake concern for them.

    This is totally disgusting and not empowering in the least. Makes me want to throw up.

    I would want a man to repect my body and emotional wellbeing to NOT want me to abort my child, even in the case of it being a crisis pregnancy. That would be a REAL man (hard as it would be for him and I)to take responsibility for his actions in the making of that child. Real man, man up!  

  5. Journalism at its best (LOL)
    How silly to argue with the stupidity of this article. Any guy who would agree with this article CAN'T READ, ya'll.

    • Way to lower men
      No Ben, the reality is you don't like women. You like sex and women are the apparatus by which you get that sex.

      I'm going to let you in on a little secret. There's a way that you can get to have sex, and get to have it all your life in fact, and get to have it with someone on a regular basis. It's called marriage. It allows you to make a commitment to bond with one woman for life and let your love for her grow. The more time you spend with her, the more you love her and the more that happens, the better things get, including sex, as you learn how you and your wife's body and attitudes and thinking work together.

      The supposed downside? You have to show you're worth her with a lifetime commitment, but if you love the woman, that's a price you happily pay. Lovers don't want to be free. They want  to be bound.

      And if you don't love the woman enough to make a commitment to her, why on Earth would you be thinking she should get naked with you and give you everything she has? Oh wait. Because it's all about you. That's right.

      But we do owe you this. We can thank you for demonstrating to everyone the reality of why abortion really is wanted. Abortion! Helping women be used for sex since 1973!

        • Even more
          My wife and I celebrate three years this month on the 24th. It's a lifetime of learning and loving. (Interesting fact, both of us have Asperger's also. There's an interesting combination for a marriage.) My wife is my support and strength. Intimacy is not just about me getting my kicks in. For me, sexual intimacy on the receiving end is my wife empowering me and letting her know I am her man. On my end, quite naturally there's a lot of pleasure involved, but it's also letting her know I'm the man she can trust in entirely. Sex in marriage is the end result of all the love that goes into the relationship. It's the crescendo in the symphony of a beautiful relationship.

          It's also part of having your desires die for the other person. If you learn to love the other person more than yourself, something we all struggle with, you do seek their good. What happens when you come to sex with both of you seeking the good of the other? It becomes the best it can be. That happens in marriage. In marriage, there's no putting someone to the test. There's no worry someone has to perform. My wife and I each decided we're worth a lifetime commitment, and we have that.

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